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Exposure

This week, the

Christian Fiction Blog Alliance

is introducing

Exposure

Zondervan (June 1, 2009)

by

Brandilyn Collins

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:


Brandilyn Collins is an award-winning and best-selling novelist known for her trademark Seatbelt Suspense®. These harrowing crime thrillers have earned her the tagline “Don’t forget to b r e a t h e . . .”® Brandilyn’s first book, A Question of Innocence, was a true crime published by Avon in 1995. Its promotion landed her on local and national TV and radio, including the Phil Donahue and Leeza talk shows. Brandilyn is also known for her distinctive book on fiction-writing techniques, Getting Into Character: Seven Secrets a Novelist Can Learn From Actors (John Wiley & Sons). She is now working on her 20th book.

In addition to Exposure, Brandilyn’s other latest release is Always Watching, first in The Rayne Tour series—young adult suspense co-written with her daughter, Amberly. The Rayne Tour series features Shaley O’Connor, daughter of a rock star, who just may have it all—until murder crashes her world.

ABOUT THE BOOK

When your worst fear comes true.

Someone is watching Kaycee Raye. But who will believe her? Everyone
knows she’s a little crazy. Kaycee’s popular syndicated newspaper
column pokes fun at her own paranoia and multiple fears. The police in
her small town are well aware she makes money writing of her
experiences. Worse yet, she has no proof of the threats. Pictures of a
dead man mysteriously appear in her home—then vanish before police
arrive. Multisensory images flood Kaycee’s mind. Where is all this
coming from?

Maybe she is going over the edge.

High action and psychological suspense collide in this story of terror,
twists, and desperate faith. The startling questions surrounding Kaycee
pile high. Her descent to answers may prove more than she can survive.

To read the first chapter, go HERE.

“More twists and turns than a Coney Island roller coaster! Highly recommended.” ~CBA Retailers

“Mesmerizing mystery…authentic characters…a fast-paced, twisting tale of desperate choices.” ~TitleTrakk

“Brandilyn Collins is a master of suspense, and Exposure is her best book yet!” ~Dianne Burnett, Christianbook.com



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How to Raise a Modern-Day Joseph

Joseph has always been my favorite character in the Bible. I’m not sure why. Maybe I identify with the teasing and jealousy his brothers felt about him, about not fitting in with the rest of them, or being just a bit arrogant at times.

Or maybe I admire the endurance and faith he had through the hard times and the waiting. I’m in a season of waiting, and Joseph is an encouragement to me. That’s one reason this book caught my eye. I’d like to pass on his inspiration to my children.

It is time for a FIRST Wild Card Tour book review! If you wish to join the FIRST blog alliance, just click the button. We are a group of reviewers who tour Christian books. A Wild Card post includes a brief bio of the author and a full chapter from each book toured. The reason it is called a FIRST Wild Card Tour is that you never know if the book will be fiction, non~fiction, for young, or for old…or for somewhere in between! Enjoy your free peek into the book!

You never know when I might play a wild card on you!

Today’s Wild Card author is:

Linda Massey Weddle

and the book:

How to Raise a Modern-Day Joseph

David C. Cook; New edition edition (June 1, 2009)

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:


Linda Massey Weddle is a children’s author and regular contributor to publications including Women’s Day and Christian Parenting Today. She develops Bible-based curriculum for young people and has been involved in children’s and youth ministry for the past twenty years. She has two grown children and six grandchildren and resides in suburban Chicago.

Visit the author’s website.

Product Details:

List Price: $16.99
Paperback: 224 pages
Publisher: David C. Cook; New edition edition (June 1, 2009)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 1434765318
ISBN-13: 978-1434765314

AND NOW…THE FIRST CHAPTER:

I n t r o d u c t i o n

A Journey Worth Planning

For parents like you…in churches like yours…this book is practical guide for a child’s spiritual

development—a journey in which parents and churches work together to raise kids who know, love, and serve the Lord.

Much of the vision and purpose for such a journey is discussed in my friend Larry Fowler’s book, Raising a Modern-Day Joseph. The book you hold in your hands—How to Raise a Modern-Day Joseph—focuses more on the practical side of that. It gives parents a workable plan for putting this vision and purpose to work in their everyday family life.

No Guarantees?

Like Larry’s book, this one is needed because we’re in the midst of a crisis. The statistics stagger us as we read about, hear about, and see young people walking away from their faith.

We surprised that this could be happening, since after all…

• our churches provide nurseries, Sunday school, vacation Bible School, Awana, youth ministries, and every other kind of kid or youth program imaginable.

• our children’s ministry curriculum is more entertaining, colorful, and professional looking than ever before.

• the market is flooded with “Christian” action figures, mugs, pencils, wallpaper, wallets, posters, linens, T-shirts, and toys, many decorated with clever “Christian” sayings.

• radio stations play Christian music twenty-four hours a day, and television channels broadcast a never-ending selection of messages from both local churches and polished, smooth-talking televangelists.

And here’s an even tougher dilemma: Why does a kid from one home walk away from the Lord while a kid in another home stays true to Him—yet the families in both homes have attended the same church, Sunday school, vacation Bible school, Awana clubs, etc.?

What happened? What’s the difference?

Before going further, I need to say this:

No plan,

no curriculum,

no humanly written book,

no pastor,

no teacher,

no parent…

can absolutely guarantee that a young person will not walk away from what they’ve been taught.

God works with His people individually, and each individual must make the choice to trust Christ as Savior. Each one chooses to walk with the Lord or to walk away from Him. After all, even with the first two kids we read about in the Bible, one had a criminal record.

The absence of such a guarantee is due to sin.

Scripture declares that the whole world is a prisoner of sin, so that what was promised,

being given through faith in Jesus Christ, might be given to those who believe.

(Galatians 3:22)

So yes, unfortunately, children don’t come with guarantees.

But God’s Word does come with a guarantee: If we trust the Lord Jesus Christ as Savior,

believing that He died and rose again, we’re promised…

• the forgiveness of sin (bridging the separation between imperfect people and a perfect

God).

• eternal life.

• a future in an unimaginably perfect heaven.

That’s some guarantee!

No, we as parents don’t have guarantees, but we do know that children who grow up in strong, Christ-centered homes—where God’s Word is both taught and lived—are more likely to live godly lives as adults.

But lets take a glimpse at what’s typically going on in many families.

A Church and Pastor Problem?

I grew up as a preacher’s kid, and as an adult became a preacher’s wife—I know firsthand how often the preacher and the church get blamed for parental failures.

I remember one Sunday morning after the church service when my husband was shaking hands with people filing out of the auditorium. Suddenly a mother stormed into the lobby, yelling and visibly upset. She said her son had been knocked over by other boys in the parking lot.

My husband’s first reaction was to call an ambulance, but the mom said that wasn’t necessary; her son just scraped his knee. “But,” she shouted, pointing to my husband. “This was your fault.”

“Why?” he asked. He could see our own two kids talking with friends nearby, so it wasn’t them who had knocked down the woman’s son. So why was this his fault?

“Because it’s your church,” the lady screamed. “And so they’re your responsibility.” (Well, that wasn’t true either; the church belongs to the people.)

But that true story is a picture of what many people do spiritually.

Just as many parents leave the physical well-being of their children up to the church (the drop-them-off-in-the-parking-lot syndrome), so many parents do the same with their children’s spiritual well-being, training, and guidance: Drop them off in the parking lot and let the church do the nurturing (whether or not the parents are even in the same building).

Maybe you feel this way too—at least to some extent. After all, you make sure your children go to church for every kids’ activity possible, so you figure the church’s pastors, teachers, and leaders are covering that spiritual training part of your kids’ lives. You’re busy doing other things, like working long hours to provide for your family, which is your responsibility.

Deep inside, you hope those people at the church are doing it right. And if your kids walk

away from the Lord someday, you’ll certainly have something to say about the church’s failure,

since spiritually raising your kids is their job.

Right?

Well, no!

From the Start

Let’s review some essentials of what the Bible says about the family.

The Family Is the First Group God Created

The family came before towns or countries, and before churches, youth programs, basketball

teams, or Facebook. God immediately created the marriage partnership—in fact, by the second

chapter of Genesis, God had already established marriage:

For Adam no suitable helper was found. So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, He took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib He had taken out of the man, and He brought her to the man. (Genesis 2:20-22)

And already by the fourth chapter in Genesis, we learn about children.

The Family (Marriage Partnership) Is a Picture of Christ and the Church

Paul says it this way:

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church His body, of which He is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to Himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. (Ephesians 5:21–27)

Family “Rules” Are Listed Throughout the Bible

Here’s an example:

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. (Colossians 3:18-21)

Family Members Need to Encourage Each Other

Paul pointed to family encouragement as a model for the entire church:

But we were gentle among you, like a mother caring for her little children. For you know that we dealt with each of you as a father deals with his own children, encouraging, comforting and urging you to live lives worthy of God, who calls you into His kingdom and glory. (1 Thessalonians 2:7, 11–12)

The family has the primary responsibility in the spiritual training of children. But families also

need the church to come alongside them to nurture their kids, to provide Christian friendships

from likeminded families, and to give complementary spiritual training. (We’ll look at all that

more closely later.)

Someone Who Knew, Loved, and Served God

The goal of Awana (the ministry I serve with) is to train children and youth to grow into adults who know, love and serve the Lord. We’ve come to see that this is also an outstanding goal for parents in training their children.

And as a biblical example of a young person who grew up to know, love, and serve the Lord, it’s hard to beat Joseph in the Old Testament. Not that he came from a perfect family.

Most children know about Joseph. They know he received a unique coat from his father—and our perception of that is a knee-length coat with rainbow-colored stripes. But why would grown men (his older step brothers—see Genesis 30:1-25) care about their little brother’s multicolored coat? The Hebrew word here for “coat” refers to a full-length tunic—sleeves to the wrist, the hem to the ankles. This was the style of coat worn by rich young men. They didn’t have to work (they had slaves or servants to do that), and they had a position of honor both in the home and in the community.

Joseph’s full-length coat was probably made of white linen, with bands of colorful embroidery as trim. By contrast, working men wore looser fitting, shorter garments so they could climb over rocks and take care of their sheep—they needed to move quickly and not be hindered by long clothing. So the brothers weren’t jealous of the colors of Joseph’s coat, but rather the implied position Joseph held in wearing such a garment.

Joseph lived in Hebron. The word Hebron means “community” or “fellowship.” Joseph had fellowship with his father, but this wasn’t a family who had a lot of fellowship with one another. I don’t think dinnertime conversations were leisurely discussions about the price of sheep feed or the Hebron weather.

The truth is, Joseph came from a dysfunctional family. This is obvious when you read in Genesis 30 about the intrigue involving his mother, his mother’s sister, their servants, and drugs (mandrakes—which were seen as narcotics or aphrodisiacs). Rachel and Leah were both jealous women who were willing to have their servants lie with Jacob so they could win the who-can have-the-most-sons race. And when Rueben brought home some mandrakes, Rachel desired them so much she was willing to “sell” Leah a night with Jacob to get her hands on them.

This of course isn’t part of the biography we read about in Sunday school, but these events are worth noting here. Out of this mess, the Lord brought Joseph, a young man who never wavered from the assurance that God was with him; a young man with a true heart-desire to know, love, and serve the Lord.

We know that Joseph’s brothers sold him into slavery, and he ended up in Egypt. We know he quickly gained power and influence in Potiphar’s house, then quickly lost it when fleeing the temptations of Mrs. Potiphar. Yet even when put in prison, Joseph knew God was with him, and he remained faithful. Later, because he interpreted the king’s dream, he was made a VIP and placed in charge of the entire land of Egypt. In that position, he was able years later to publicly forgive his brothers.

Through it all, Joseph concluded that it wasn’t his brothers who sent him to Egypt, but God. God had a plan for him, and Joseph listened to God and fulfilled His plan—something he was later able to testify about to his brothers: “God sent me ahead of you to preserve for you a remnant on earth and to save your lives by a great deliverance” (Genesis 45:7).

Joseph’s life in particular reflected five godly character qualities—we’ll call them “master life threads”— that were woven into the very being of who he was and how he lived his life.

• Respect for the awesomeness and authority of God (Genesis 39:6-9.

• Wisdom for living life, based on a knowledge of God (40:5-8).

• Grace in relationships with others (41:51-52).

• A sense of destiny and purpose that came from God (45:4-10).

• A perspective for life based on the sovereignty of God (50:15-21).

These master life threads are also desired characteristics in the lives of our own children—as they learn to know, love, and serve the Lord.

We know that Joseph knew about the Lord. God was the God of his father, Jacob. As Joseph’s life continued in surprising new situations—as head of Potiphar’s household, as a prisoner, and finally as the man in charge of all of Egypt—he continued following the Lord. Over and over in the biblical account of Joseph’s life, we read that the Lord was with him, as in Genesis 39:21: “The LORD was with him; he showed him kindness and granted him favor in the eyes of the prison warden.”

We know that Joseph loved the Lord because of the way he lived his life, refusing to be drawn into the temptations of a rich and powerful household, and because of his exemplary forgiveness toward the brothers who had wronged him: “But Joseph said to them, ‘Don’t be afraid. Am I in the place of God? You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. So then, don’t be afraid. I will provide for you and your children.’ And he reassured them and spoke kindly to them” (Genesis 50:19-21).

And we know that Joseph served the Lord—by making righteous choices, by administrating the seven years of plenty, and by giving food not only to the people of Egypt but to other countries as well. As the famine intensified, and “the people cried to Pharaoh for food,” Pharaoh responded, “Go to Joseph and do what he tells you” (Genesis 41:55).

Modern-Day Josephs

What Christian parent wouldn’t want their child to grow up to be a modern-day Joseph—a young person who reflects those five master life threads, and who knows, loves, and serves the Lord?

For many parents (and maybe this includes you), their children are already becoming Josephs. They do excellent jobs spiritually nurturing their children. They daily teach their kids God’s Word by guiding them toward recognizing the need to trust Christ, praying with them, reading the Bible together, encouraging Scripture memorization, explaining difficult words and concepts and talking about the qualities of the Christian life. Then they live out God’s Word in everyday life. They take their responsibility seriously.

Then there are other parents simply don’t think about their child’s spiritual training. These parents flounder through life, not learning much themselves about what the Bible actually says, and they couldn’t begin to explain the difference between Genesis and Galatians. Yet they’re law abiding citizens and church-attending Christians. They figure their kids will turn out okay. After all, they get their kids to Sunday school and even sent them once to a Christian summer camp.

But the majority of Christian parents are somewhere in the middle. They desire to be spiritual nurturers of their children, but they don’t know how. They might be intimidated that they might not say the right words. (What if my child asks me to explain eschatology or something?) Or they don’t know where to find a plan that shows them how to be a spiritual nurturer. (They may not even realize they should have a plan).

Furthermore, you probably know some adults who grew up without any spiritual nurturing in the home, yet who are now pastors, missionaries, church leaders, or shining witnesses in the secular workplace. The Lord used someone besides a parent to mentor that child, or gave the child a desire for Bible study that transformed her into someone who truly wants to know, love, and serve the Lord.

Goal and Plan

If our destination for our children is having a child who develops Joseph-like characteristics—knowing, loving, and serving the Lord—what’s the itinerary or plan for that journey?

The lack of such a plan often becomes the roadblock in our children’s spiritual development—and getting past that roadblock is what this book is all about. This book is not a step-by-step itinerary, but more of an atlas where you pick and choose which stops to make in your own family journey—because we know all families are different, with different schedules, different interests, and different personalities.

Our desire is to give your family (and your church) ideas—lots of ideas for helping to spiritual nurture your children. But as the parent, you need to devise the route.

It’s a plan that involves both parents—and the church as well.

Dad

The father is the head of the house and the God-ordained leader of the home. Dads and moms need to work together to spiritually raise their children.

A spiritually strong dad will…

• pray with his children.

• lead the children in Bible study and worship.

• take an interest in what the child is learning at church.

• teach his children Bible verses, Bible concepts, and Bible truths.

• discuss challenging questions, cultural events and concepts with his children.

• model a Christlike attitude in his daily life.

Unfortunately in too many homes, Mom is by herself in doing all of this. Dad might drive the family to church, but he doesn’t take any real responsibility in the child’s spiritual development.

If you’re a father, know this: God has given you a job to do. Your responsibility is to do it. You can’t expect your child to grow into a God-honoring adult when he sees you ignore the Bible, find every excuse possible to avoid church, and live a life that’s inconsistent with what God says in His Word.

Mom

Children need both parents involved in their spiritual training, and that’s the basic scenario presented throughout this book. It’s a sad situation when Dad is faithfully living for the Lord, but Mom doesn’t want any part of it.

Mom needs to be an active part of the praying, teaching, discussing, and modeling too. For example, sometimes Mom’s the one who spends a half-hour before or after school helping her children work on a memory verse, and when Dad gets home, he can enthusiastically listen to the children recite the verse. This is a joint effort. Both parents are huge influencers.

You might be a single mom and already feel defeated because you don’t have a husband to help you out. You can still teach your children from God’s Word and live an exemplary life. In your situation, the partnership of the church may be more important than usual. Hopefully your church has good male role models teaching younger children, so your children can profit from a masculine influence.

A good example of one parent spiritually training a child is that of Eunice and her son Timothy (2 Timothy 1:4-5). Eunice did have the help of her own mother, Timothy’s grandmother, but she didn’t have any help from her unbelieving Gentile husband. Timothy’s mom and grandma taught him the Old Testament Scriptures and exemplified godly lives. When the apostle Paul came along and taught Timothy about the Son of God and His sacrifice on the cross, Timothy was ready to trust Christ as Savior. Timothy became Paul’s son in the faith (1 Timothy 1:2), and Paul recognized of the foundation which Timothy’s mom and grandma had laid.

Many single parents do great jobs in spiritually training their children. If you’re a single parent, or your spouse isn’t interested in God and His Word, you need to surround yourself with likeminded adults who can give you and your children support and encouragement.

Fitting into Your Schedule

When, where, and how do we spend time spiritually training our children?

The following verses from Deuteronomy give clear instruction that our entire daily lives should provide teaching opportunities to spiritually train our children:

Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates, so that your days and the days of your children may be many in the land that the LORD swore to give your forefathers, as many as the days that the heavens are above the earth. (Deuteronomy 11:18-21)

In a real sense, spiritual training in the home is ongoing and never-ending. It’s really a part of everything you do.

But we also need to set aside specific times when we come together as a family to pray, honor, and worship the Lord and to study and memorize His Word. Some families enjoy singing or playing instruments together. Others read a page from a devotional book.

One teenager said, “Our family wasn’t musical, so that wasn’t part of our activities. But we did other things, such as making rebuses of Bible verses.”

You might set aside a time each day for spiritual focus—at the breakfast or supper table, or before bed. Or you could plan family nights when an entire evening is dedicated to a lesson, an activity, and a special treat. (Be careful you don’t present the activity as more important and fun than the lesson. Bible study can and should be a great experience.)

Maybe your family’s schedule is so complicated that you can’t have a regular set time for spiritual focus, but you can still conscientiously meet together as a family to pray, worship, and learn about the Lord.

A couple considerations in all this:

• Sometimes families are diligent in having family devotions, but that’s the only time their children hear about the Lord. Because Dad prays and reads a page from a devotional book, he feels he’s taken care of his spiritual leadership responsibilities. Five minutes later, the children hear him swear when opening the gas bill, or see him confront a neighbor because the neighbor’s dog messed up the lawn. What he verbally taught is negated by the way he lives his life.

• Families are different. One guy diligently teaches his kids from the Bible, helps them with their memory verses, and consistently lives a godly life, yet he feels guilty. He knows of another family that spends thirty minutes of concentrated training at the supper table each night, but his irregular work schedule doesn’t allow him to do that. He is, however, doing a great job. We need to focus on our own families, not on what someone else is doing.

We as parents need to work together to develop the itinerary for our own families, keeping

our eyes on the goal of raising children who know, love, and serve the Lord.

Your Church

Whether large or small, your church is your best partner in raising your children.

In fact, the size of the church doesn’t really matter. Mega churches have the money and staff to provide exciting programs for both parents and children, and those programs can be good. But smaller churches can be better at giving a child a sense of security, family, and nurturing that you don’t always find in a larger church.

So church size isn’t important. What is important is the attitude of the church and the pastor toward kids. Does your church leadership really care about kids? Do they see the value in children’s ministry, and provide necessary resources to spiritually disciple children? Do they occasionally visit children’s or youth ministry times to give the lesson, answer questions, or simply greet the children or youth? Do they make an effort to learn the names of the kids, or do they know your three teenagers (who have been attending the church since birth) only as the Hansen kids?

If your church doesn’t see the importance of encouraging families, maybe you could be the catalyst to begin the initiative.

After this book’s Part One (which focuses on giving parents specific age-appropriate suggestions for their child’s spiritual development), Part Two will focus especially on practical ways the church can partner with you in this task. Be sure to explore what’s presented in Part Two, and become familiar with ideas of how churches and families can work together.

Planning Your Family’s Spiritual Journey

The ideas in this book are suggestions. No parent can do everything, just as no church can do everything either. Our goal is to give you plenty of ideas to help get you started and keep you going.

So let me lay out what you’ll find in each chapter in Part One, which is especially geared for you as a parent. (Keeping the journey idea in mind, most of these components have travel-related labels.)

Life Threads

Each chapter targets a different stage of a child’s life, and will focus on an appropriate life thread

(reflecting a quality that Joseph displayed in his life).

Here are these life threads for each age category:

Preschoolers (ages 2-5) Respect

Early Elementary (ages 5-8—kindergarten to second grade) Wisdom

Older Elementary (ages 8-11—third through sixth grades) Grace

Middle School (ages 11-14—seventh and eighth grades) Destiny

High School (ages 14-18—ninth through twelfth grades) Perspective

At the beginning of each chapter, you’ll find listed again the life thread to focus on for that stage in your child’s life.

By the way, if you’re looking at this list and thinking, “Great, but my child is already twelve years old!”—that’s okay. Yes, you’ve missed some prime training opportunities, but you can catch up. Review the sections for preschoolers and elementary age children, and teach the principles to your child using explanations and activities appropriate for a twelve-year-old. Instead of regretting what you missed, focus on the present and look to the future. These concepts are good for all ages—including adults.

What They’re Like

Early in each chapter, this section lists ten characteristics about that particular age category. Understanding these characteristics will give you a great head start in helping your child grow spiritually.

What They’re Asking

This section in each chapter lists the kinds of questions that kids in this age group typically ask about God and the Bible. You’ll also find suggested answers to a few of the questions.

These questions came from a “Biggest Question Survey” sponsored by Awana. A few years back, we asked 4,000 children and teenagers, “What’s your biggest question about God and the Bible?” These children and teenagers all had some Bible background (though, after looking at their questions, we surmised that some didn’t remember much of it). Then we determined the most-asked questions for each age group.

But don’t stop with reading what other kids have asked; ask your own children for their biggest questions about God and the Bible.

What You Can Do

In this section of each chapter you’ll find a wealth of practical suggestions for what you as a parent can do to help in your child’s spiritual growth in each stage. This begins with a short section about helping your child make the all-important decision to trust Christ as Savior.

Bios and Verses

Here you’ll find appropriate Bible biographies and Scripture memory verses to explore and learn with your children.

(At Awana, we substitute the word “biography” for “story” to emphasize that what comes from the Bible is true and not fictional. We explain that a biography is a true story about someone.)

What Not to Do

Sometimes we hinder more than we help. Each chapter includes this section where you’ll find common errors to avoid in each stage of your child’s life.

Checklist

Each chapter also includes a checklist of basic attainments to look for in your child’s spiritual development.

Family Itinerary

Finally, the section in each chapter labeled “Family Itinerary” is a worksheet to help you develop your plan and goals for your child’s spiritual journey in each stage.

Here are a couple of samples of completed itineraries from two families, one with younger children and one with teenagers:

A Sample Itinerary for a Family with Young Children

Our spiritual goals for the year are:

1. Teach Emma and Jacob that God created the world.

2. Teach Emma and Jacob that God loves each one of us.

3. Teach Emma and Jacob that the Bible is God’s book.

4. Teach Emma and Jacob that Jesus is God’s Son.

5. Teach Emma and Jacob that we’re to obey God.

Our family verse for this year is:

Genesis 1:1

We’ll also study the following six additional verses (one every two months) about God and His character:

1. Psalm 33:4

2. Proverbs 3:5

3. Matthew 28:20

4. Romans 3:23

5. Ephesians 6:1

6. 1 John 4:14

We’ll also study the following six Bible biographies (one every two months):

1. Adam

2. Joseph

3. Heman

4. Josiah

5. David

6. Christ’s birth

We will also do a more extensive study on this person in the Bible:

Heman in 1 Chronicles 25:5–7. We’ll learn how he and his family sang in the temple. We’ll learn a song together and sing at church.

Here are other activities our family will do together to learn about Bible characters:

1. We’ll watch a series of DVDs on Bible characters (a set we were given that’s factual).

2. We’ll visit Grandma and Grandpa and look at their pictures they took in Israel.

3. We’ll study Josiah and other Bible characters who served God even though they were young.

4. We’ll do several crafts using natural materials from the outdoors as we talk about God’s creation. These will include leaf-tracings, pictures on sun-sensitive paper, and drying flowers.

5. We’ll teach Emma and Jacob to identify five birds and five flowers, explaining that

they were all created by God.

Here are some themes for family fun nights we would like to do this year:

1. We’ll build a birdhouse together and learn about ten birds in our area of the country, and we’ll talk about creating a wonderful variety of birds.

2. We’ll make a mural for the basement wall of David watching his sheep.

3. We’ll invite Grandpa and Grandma to family night so they can hear Jacob and Emma say their verses.

4. We’ll make a book of all the different Bible biographies Jacob and Emma have learned at church this year.

5. We’ll visit the zoo.

6. We’ll make cookies for the lady down the street who’s homebound.

Our family has completed this year’s family itinerary and met our spiritual goals.

(Signed by each family member)

A Sample Itinerary for a Family with Children in High School

Our spiritual goals for the year are:

1. Study the book of Ephesians together.

2. Encourage Andrew and Amanda to teach and mentor their younger siblings.

3. Discuss biblical worldview and what that means as Andrew and Amanda head off to college.

4. Have open, honest discussions about difficult cultural issues.

5. Encourage Andrew and Amanda to write down any questions they may have about God and the Bible and to work through those questions as a family.

6. For Andrew and Amanda to serve by singing and playing guitar at the rescue mission once a month.

Our family verse for this year is:

Joshua 24:15

This year we’ll do the following family research project:

On creation. The project will culminate with a week at creation camp this summer.

We’ll memorize this chapter from the Bible:

Ephesians 2

We’ll read (either as a family or individually) the following books:

1. Evidence That Demands a Verdict by Josh McDowell

2. Mere Christianity by C. S. Lewis

Our family service project this year will be:

Serving at the soup kitchen on Thanksgiving and Christmas

Our family has completed this year’s family itinerary and met our spiritual goals.

(Signed by each family member)



Categories: Between the Covers of a Book |June 29th, 2009 | No Comments


If you’ve been wondering where I’ve been…

I’ve been super busy planning the WIN-ACFW local conference. It ended yesterday and today I’m beat!!

Last year we had one speaker, one room, and about 40 people. This year, I wanted to go bigger. Two speakers. Rene Gutteridge and Brandt Dodson…awesome, awesome, awesome. Plus we had an agent, Jeff Dunn, a publicist, Jeane Wynn, pastor/writer Ed Gungor and about 50 people. The official numbers aren’t back yet, but I do know that 8 people showed up at the door! Woo Hoo! How exciting that was…but we also panicked and ordered more food, which we actually didn’t end up needing because the wonderful WIN members kept us well supplied with snacks.

All the feedback about the conference was good. Everyone had a great time and offered some really great suggestions for next year. Even my own WIN members raved and wondered how I pulled it off. Not sure how I did. I just attacked the details one at a time and even added some things the very last week. I have to admit, planning this year was tough. I got some much needed help, but not as much as I wanted or needed, and yet, I’m thinking bigger next year. Next year? A part of me wants to jump right in with the planning (which I did this morning) and a part of me wants to run far, far away.

I can’t ignore the flashing red sign. The one with the four letter word everyone cringes at…WORK! Conference planning is a lot of work. Someone pointed out to me that I started planning this conference a year ago! That means I need to start planning now for next year!

So here I sit contemplating next year and my mind just wants to go for it. Bigger is better, right? But why do I want to go there? Partly because of the questionnaires and my desire to please everyone. Partly because there’s something inside me driving me to do more, go bigger, in lots of areas of my life. Maybe that’s what keeps me pressing on with my writing.

I’m realistic about next year’s conference and know it’s not going to meet everyone’s needs no matter what I plan. And I’m not going to go bigger without more help, that’s for sure. So I’m praying for some members to really step up. In the meantime, I’m getting more organized. Making a conference checklist and trying to amend some things that I overlooked this year.

I have speakers in mind. Several. But it all depends on budget and availability and help! I’m very good at delegating. Just need more people to delegate to! So we’ll see. I’m sure it will happen. I just don’t want to kill myself trying to make it so!

How do you get people to step up and join you in a process like this? It definitely takes a village to build a good conference!





Tortoise or Hare?

I’ve come to the conclusion that it doesn’t matter how fast I run this publishing race, I’m not going to reach the finish line until God wants me to. So as I finish up edits on my current WIP, I’m looking toward the future and plan on stopping to smell the roses! That means slowing my writing down which would be like a snail instead of a tortoise!

Why slow down? If my writing career is in God’s hand, and I ultimately have no control over when I publish, why should I “kill” myself in the process. I’ve already “written” away so much time with my children, time I’ll never get back. If God’s timing is perfect, then even if I polish it in 3 months, which ain’t happening, it probably won’t be God’s timing. Right?

Or maybe my thinking is all wrong! Maybe it’s not so much the timing as in “when my kids get this age, then God will give me the green light.” Maybe it’s the timing of “the book” he wants me to write, which in that case, my whole theory of slow and steady wins the race is off, and I need to put on my running shoes!!!!

What’s your take on this? Where are you in your writing career, or in getting your “dream?” Tortoise or hare?





What are you willing to do to get published?

I’m not a romance writer, but after my agent’s repeated suggestions, I wrote a romantic suspense. He says romance is selling well in the inspirational market and after my first mystery didn’t sell, and I already had this romantic suspense book partly written (for an anthology,) I finished it. Now all I can do is wait, and rewrite my original mystery with a romance angle.

I’m not thrilled about turning my married protagonist into a divorced, single mom of three so she can find love and live happily ever after, but I do want the book to sell, and it already made the rounds. I’ve been told editors liked the idea, but wished it was a romance.

So here I go again, writing a romance. Is this where I want to stay? No! But I’m hoping it will be a stepping stone to what I really want to write and in this economy and market, sometimes we have to take a different path if we want to get ahead!



Categories: Works In Progress |June 24th, 2009 | 2 Comments


The King’s Legacy

It is time for a FIRST Wild Card Tour book review! If you wish to join the FIRST blog alliance, just click the button. We are a group of reviewers who tour Christian books. A Wild Card post includes a brief bio of the author and a full chapter from each book toured. The reason it is called a FIRST Wild Card Tour is that you never know if the book will be fiction, non~fiction, for young, or for old…or for somewhere in between! Enjoy your free peek into the book!

You never know when I might play a wild card on you!

Today’s Wild Card author is:

Jim Stovall

and the book:

The King’s Legacy

David C. Cook; New edition edition (June 1, 2009)

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Jim Stovall is a national champion Olympic weightlifter, former president of the Emmy Award-winning Narrative Television Network, and a highly sought after author and platform speaker. Jim was honored as the International Humanitarian of the Year, joining previous recepients Mother Teresa and Nancy Reagan. He is the author of the best-selling book The Ultimate Gift, now a major motion picture.

Visit the author’s website.

List Price: $12.99
Paperback: 160 pages
Publisher: David C. Cook; New edition edition (June 1, 2009)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 1434765938
ISBN-13: 978-1434765932

AND NOW…THE FIRST CHAPTER:

Once upon a time, there was an enchanted kingdom in a land far, far away. The kingdom was ruled by a benevolent and much-loved king. He had led his people through many difficult times, and they had finally reached a golden age of peace, prosperity, and happiness.

The king summoned all of his wise men together and said, “Now that our land is enjoying a season of prosperity and peace, I wish to leave a permanent legacy of my reign as your ruler.”

The king went on to tell his wise men that he would like their best thoughts and ideas as to what he could do to create a fitting tribute to all the people of the kingdom and his reign as their leader. Each of the wise men left the Throne Room determined to come up with the best idea to present to the king, as they all knew that the king’s chosen action would be remembered for generations.

On the appointed day and hour, the wise men reconvened in the Throne Room.

The king said, “I want to hear your suggestions one at a time, so that I might determine what would be a fitting legacy for me to leave in honor of my reign as king.”

The first wise man approached the steps leading to the throne, bowed with dignity, and began. “Your Highness, since the beginning of recorded history, great rulers have left magnificent feats of architecture as tributes to their greatness. One need only look to the east and think of the great pyramids that have stood for generations and will remain throughout time, paying homage to the pharaohs.”

The wise man bowed again and backed away from the throne.

The king fell silent and was lost in deep thought, then said, “I am pleased with your suggestion as it has much merit. Indeed, a great edifice could stand for thousands of years to proclaim the greatness of our people and my reign as their king.”

The second wise man approached the throne and bowed reverently. He said, “Oh, great King, if I may humbly suggest that a gold coin be designed and minted bearing your image and in your honor. This coin could be distributed throughout the kingdom and, carried along the trade routes as if by friendly winds, it would literally be distributed around the world signifying your power and majesty.”

The king nodded and smiled. He seemed pleased with this suggestion also. He then beckoned the next wise man to approach. The wise man dutifully bowed and said, “Your highness, may I suggest that a monument of heretofore unknown proportion be erected in your image. Great reflecting pools and immense gardens would surround the statue. People would travel from the four corners of the earth to marvel at its splendor and pay respect and tribute to your greatness.”

The king smiled and stated, “Each of these suggestions has been well thought-out and presented. Before I go to deliberate my final decision, are there any other suggestions?”

After a long pause, the eldest wise man stepped forward. The king smiled and said, “My great and wise advisor, you have been with me from the beginning of my reign to this day, and you have always served me well. What say you in this matter?”

The elderly wise man replied quietly, “Your highness, may I suggest that each of my colleagues has proposed a fitting tribute to your greatness in the traditional sense; however, great buildings, gold coins, and monuments serve as tributes to other rulers from other days. May I humbly offer my suggestion? Something altogether different?”

The king nodded in assent.

“The one thing that could pay tribute to your greatness for thousands of years to come would be the proclamation of the Wisdom of the Ages. This would be an opportunity for you, oh great one, to communicate the greatest secret of the known world to benefit all humanity.

“Buildings and coins and statues will all pass away, but the Wisdom of the Ages would last forever. This would, indeed, be a fitting tribute to the king I humbly serve.”

The king fell into deep thought. Finally, he told all of his servants and the wise men to leave him so that he might choose the tribute most fitting to his reign as their king.



Categories: Between the Covers of a Book |June 23rd, 2009 | No Comments


My Dream Asian Vacation

My best friend from college suprised me this week for a visit and told me about her travels through China. She said Shanghai is a must see! Though she stayed at hostels, I’d prefer a resort like this!

The Sofitel Huanghe Sheshan Resort in Shanghai is a 5 star luxury hotel and has a unique mediterranean decor and everything to make the family happy. There’s swimming, a spa, tennis, and even golf! But the best is it’s affordable. But usually when we vacation, we hardly spend time at the hotel because we’re out seeing the sites. If we went to Shanghai, that would probably be the case and the Accor Hotels City Super Sale has even more affordable hotels to choose from. I only wish I could go between July 10 and September 30, 2009 because I’d be able to save 60% but I’d need to book on-line this week from 23 - 29 June. Hey, if you haven’t made travel plans this summer, you could take advantage of this great deal! Just remember to send me a postcard!

My friend said Shanghai blends modern technology with the ancient world. The Bund strip is a must see. Early in the morning you can see all the older people doing Tai Chi, sword and fan dances, and aerobics everywhere! That would be so cool to see! We could also catch a Chinese acrobat show, and if we timed it right and went during the New Moon festival she said it would be worth it just to taste the special festival cookies!

Other stops on her must see list include The Pearl tower, and the famous tea house in the heart of the old city. You can sit by the window in this Pagoda surrounded by a moat canal and watch the people. She said presidents or heads of state always go there. But she liked it because it was a respite from the busy city and you can only get there on foot. It’s famous for its Jasmine tea where the Jasmine blossom opens when hot water is poured on it. She says the aroma is amazing.

I love to travel, and Asia wasn’t really on my list until I talked with my friend, and I’m so glad she told me about it. I’m already dreaming about the day when my last child is in college and me and hubby can travel the world. I only hope we have the money and the world is travelable!!!



Categories: Viva Vacation , Product Review |June 22nd, 2009 | No Comments


I LOVED City of the Dead!!!

But I hated the fact that I did not think of writing this book myself! I so love ancient history, especially Egypt and my current WIP focuses on an archaeologist and an Egyptian artifact.

City of the Dead by T.L. Higley transported me back in time to the building of the Great Pyramid. I loved everything about this book. The voice of the main character Hemi, Grand Vizier to Pharaoh Khufu. The rich history that doesn’t overtake the novel but is just enough to make you feel like you were there. The mystery, secret loves, and redemption that ties this entire novel together. Even the faith element was a pleasant surprise, which I thought was lacking in the first part of the book, but even with the hidden faith element, I still loved it and wanted to read more.

Did I mention I loved it and wish I would have written it? And I’m so glad TL Higley has other books to transport me back in time since City of the Dead is only book two in the Seven Wonders series and I’m so hoping there are seven wonders to read about!

To read the first chapter, go here. And if you want an exotic escape to an ancient land filled with mystery, then go and buy City of the Dead. You won’t be disappointed!



Categories: Between the Covers of a Book |June 22nd, 2009 | 1 Comment


Conference Time or Wondering Where I’ve Been?

As president of the local ACFW miniconference, I’ve been busy planning for NEXT WEEKEND! And let me tell you, it should be a full time job! But it’ll be so worth it. So if you’re anywhere near Oklahoma and have ANY desire to write fiction or just find out what it takes to write fiction, then I encourage you to attend this conference next weekend.

It’s the most affordable ($50,) meat-filled conference I know with dynamic authors who are great teachers! I’ve personally know them and have sat under their teachings! Did I mention they were awesome?

It’s not too late to register, but it’s getting late to take advantage of the reduced hotel rate.  All the info you need is here!

And if you can’t make it, can you do me a favor, pray for this conference and tell a friend or blog about it with a link! I want to reach as many people as possible because you never know who might be have a calling on their life to write. It might even be YOU!



Categories: Conference Confidence , Daily Grind |June 20th, 2009 | 1 Comment


Operation Kid to Kid Mission’s Project

Kid to Kid logo

Give your kids a hands-on mission project and a chance to serve needy children around the world

What do think about when you read headlines about economic hardships, natural disasters, and politically charged conflict?  Circumstances like these set families and entire communities reeling, and few people are affected as profoundly as the children involved.  How do the littlest victims cope with the changes and uncertainty around them?  And what can the church do to reach out specifically to these little ones?

Group Publishing, the premier publishers of children’s Bible curriculum including Sunday school and VBS, believes that some of the best ministers to children experiencing disaster and hardship are other children.  That’s why they have created a program called Operation Kid-to-Kid (OK2K), which partners with nondenominational Christian ministries like International Bible Society and World Vision to provide opportunities for children in North America to share God’s love with other children in difficult or disastrous situations.  Since its inception ten years ago, Operation Kid-to-Kid projects have impacted millions of kids all over the world.

“Operation Kid-to-Kid is a great way to teach kids compassion and service,” says Joani Schultz, cofounder of Group and OK2K.  “Children learn by doing.  It’s one thing to drop a nickel in the offering plate, but when kids make a gift with their own hands, when they can be creative and personal, this leaves a real impression on both the givers and the receivers.”

Q: What is Operation Kid-to-Kid™?

A: Operation Kid-to-Kid™ is a partnership of Group Publishing, Inc. and nondenominational Christian organizations dedicated to creating hands-on service projects for children in North America.  Operation Kid-to-Kid™ projects have ministered to kids all over the world.  Over the years, Group’s Operation Kid-to-Kid™ has become one of the largest forces mobilizing children in serving other children around the world.  Millions have been impacted with gifts of comfort critters, school supplies, Bibles, hygiene kits, Christmas gifts, Bible coloring books, and socks and shoes.  Operation Kid-to-Kid™ gives children a meaningful service project that will change their hearts as they help change the world.

Turtle product shotQ: What is a Comfort Critter?  Where do I get the Comfort Critters?

A: Comfort Critters are adorable, easy-to-assemble crafts designed especially for kids to make and receive.  Custom-made Comfort Critters are available from Group and Group suppliers.  This year’s special critter is a cuddly little turtle that reads “God Cares” and features a pocket so each child can include a special message to another child in need.

 

Q: We all want to teach our kids about God’s compassion.  Why are the Operation Kid-to-KidTM Comfort Critters so effective for this purpose?

A: Children learn by doing.  While activities like collecting spare change definitely serve a good purpose, it’s hard for young children, who don’t really understand the value of money yet, to understand how the money they collect will minister to other children.  But all children know what it’s like to be scared or lonely.  They know how a teddy bear, stuffed animal, or blankie makes them feel better.  As they use their own hands to make these little turtles, they are creating personal, tangible expressions of compassion.  The handy sewn in pocket gives them the opportunity to send a message from their own hearts.  And because they make two turtles—one to give away and one to keep—they will have a touchable reminder that other children are struggling and in need of compassion and comfort.

Q: How many Comfort Critters will I need?

A: You will need two for each child participating—one for them to keep, and one to give away.

Q: Can I use a different Comfort Critter for our church service project?

A: Not if you are distributing it through International Bible Society for disaster relief.  They’re counting on receiving these Comfort Critters with the special message of God’s love.  IBS has learned it’s important that items distributed to children should be identical.  No child should feel less special because his or her Comfort Critter doesn’t look like the others.

Q: Do I have to send my Comfort Critters to the International Bible Society for distribution?

A: Feel free to tweak your Operation Kid-to-Kid™ program.  You can use your Comfort Critters as a local community service project—or send the items with your church mission team.

Q: Besides the Comfort Critters, what other Operation Kid-to-Kid™ projects can my group participate in?

A: There are so many ways to involve children in ministry throughout the year.  Through the Rome VBS program, you can send monthly Bible readers to children in the underground church around the world.  Since it is dangerous for these children to own a Bible, these comic book-style readers offer much needed encouragement.

The Operation Kid-to-Kid Prayer Bear missions program warms hearts and minds and allows children to share the joy of God’s love.  Kids will learn what it means to help others as they create a Prayer Bear that says “Jesus” in English, Spanish, and French.  Plus, everyone can personalize a message to put in their Bear’s pocket to send to an orphan in Africa.  Join us in one of the world’s largest forces mobilizing kids in serving others around the world.

This easy, hands-on mission program can serve those in your local community, be sent to military personnel, or simply be sent to the International Bible Society for distribution to children around the world.

 



Categories: Uncategorized |June 17th, 2009 | No Comments


Problems with Mosquitoes?

Since our new yard hasn’t been kept up in several years we’ve had a little problem with brown recluse, moles, and mosquitoes. I remember as a kid getting eat up by mosquitoes, especially at night. That was before the West Nile Virus issue, and the only “danger” mosquitos posed was the annoying sting and itch.

Seems like my little girl has inherited my sweet blood because she’s always covered in those itchy bites. She loves to help her daddy in the yard, and we’ve started swimming at night. And every night we have to put on mosquito bite medicine to stop the itch. I keep thinking we need to put on bug spray, but I’d rather not put pesticides on my child every single day. We just put up the tiki torches in the back yard, hoping that might help, but these mosquito traps seem like the best idea yet.

It’s a device that mimics what attracts insects to humans. It seems like the CO2 we exhale, along with our human scent attracts mosquitoes. What this machine does is attract the insects and then traps them. No harmful chemical are released or need to be sprayed on you or in your yard. All you have to do it put it in a location away from your living area, and it can run 24/7. I can also see this being used while camping!

Think of the what this can do for outdoor living! No more pesky mosquitoes to annoy us while swimming or cooking out and no more annoying bites to itch! What a great idea!



Categories: Product Review |June 14th, 2009 | 1 Comment


Bacteria Killing Granite Sinks?

How cool is that?

In my last house, I had a ceramic sink for about 8 years, until it started to chip. While I liked the look of the ceramic, it took a beating with the chips and the rim was hard to clean. My hubby bought me a stainless steel sink to replace it one Christmas. You’d think most women would have been excited, but I hate the look of stainless steel. It looks too industrial to me. But I had to admit, after I started using it, I didn’t have to worry about chipping, though I did notice it scratched easier.

Now I’m back to the ceramic sink in our new/old home. It was built in the 80s and though the kitchen was overhauled five years ago, they forgot to replace the sink and stove. So the sink is chipped, and I’m cooking on those old coil type ranges. Does ANYONE still cook on those anymore?

A ceramic sink and a coil range might be okay if we planned on living in this home forever, but our intentions are to sell in a few years and upgrading the sink and stove is on the list. Well, my list, anyway!

So when I discovered that they had Granite Sinks I thought that would be worth checking into. This company claims their granite sinks are natural and environmentally friendly, but what really caught my attention is that it kills 99.9% of bacteria on contact. Plus it’s stain proof and resists scratches and comes with a lifetime warranty. Seems like the perfect sink to me!

If I was to get one, this would be the one! My mom in law put in a new sink like this (minus the granite) and I just loved the fact that it didn’t have the divider.  Who actually uses that other side? I’d prefer one giant sink instead of that annoying divider where no pans or big pots seems to fit. Can anyone relate?

I’m definitely forwarding this website to my hubby so when it comes to upgrading the kitchen, we’ll know where to go!



Categories: Product Review |June 14th, 2009 | 1 Comment


SEO…URL…FTP

No, I’m not writing a sci-fi and trying to create my own extra-terrestrial language. I’m trying to figure out the internet alphabet…

SEO, URL, FTP…it’s enough to make a girl think she needs to go back to kindergarten…technogarten to be exact.

While I don’t understand all the letters in the internet alphabet, I do know that you need a SEO (I’m guessing that it stands for Search Engine something or other)  to maximize your online visibility. And let’s face it, if you blog, twitter, Facebook, and have a product to sell, chances on you want to be seen. And this International SEO Company seems like a great place to start. It makes sense that if you want to increase your visibility in the world market, you should use an international company.

I know I’m trying to make my self more visible, but I also know sometimes I only use techno tools in their basic forms. In fact, I think I’m using little bits and pieces of a lot of different things to maximize my web presence. I’m probably not going about it the right way, but like I said, I’m still in kindergarten. I’m still trying to figure all this out, and frankly, learning an extra-terrestrial language MIGHT be easier! But if you’ve advanced to techno gradeschool and understand the internet alphabet well enough, you might want to read more about this company and what it can do for your online presence!



Categories: Product Review |June 13th, 2009 | 1 Comment


Work in Progress

“An unfinished Woman’s Guide to Grace” by Kristin Armstrong

A work in progress? Who isn’t one? That’s why this title caught my eye. And isn’t it true as women we strive to do and be more whether in Christ or just in our families and work. We all need a little grace, okay, a lot of grace and like the title says, we can get it even if we’re unfinished!

Here’s what they say:

When Kristin Armstrong was in the pit of her divorce, she eagerly read every spiritual book and devotional she could get her hands on out of a hunger to connect with someone who knew exactly what she was going through and how she felt. Now, at a time when society offers so many conflicting messages about what it means to be a woman, Kristin invites readers to discover grace as a way of life.
Using real-life anecdotes, biblical wisdom, and insight born of hard experience, Kristin teaches women the twelve traits of grace, inviting reflection and interaction. Warm, engaging, and practical, WORK IN PROGRESS examines what God has to say about being His kind of woman in the twenty-first century.

Here’s what I say:

Kristin hits on issues every woman struggles with like beauty, confidence, and trust to name a few. With examples from her own life, she shares her struggles and triumphs and offers scripture throughout to help us see God’s grace and truth in who he has designed us to be.

She says on beauty “We must seriously consider whose heart we are trying to capture with our beauty and understand that God’s heart is the only on worth pursuing this way.” How opposite is our society!

On confidence “I’m embarrassed to say for many years I confused confidence with arrogance. I thought pride (which is clearly marked sin)as a good thing. I thought pride meant you had a positive opinion of yourself and that no one could or would dare take advantage of you.”

I haven’t read the entire book, but it’s a great start in getting you thinking about certain areas of a woman’s life. But what brings in all home and makes it personal is the discussion/journal questions in the back for each chapter. It makes it easy to dig deeper into each chapter and make this book a personal journey to God’s grace in your life!



Categories: Between the Covers of a Book |June 12th, 2009 | No Comments


Interior Decorating Made Easy

When it comes to interior decorating, I have various styles. I often told myself I needed several homes to satisfy my decorating craves. An apartment in NYC for the chic, clean line styles with black and red colors, a formal home for the formal, antique, frilly side of me and a casual home, maybe cabin in the mountain or by the sea for, you got it, casual me. Right now I try to incorporate the formal and casual into one house. I think it works. Our upstairs room is formal with my grandma’s marble tables and pillow back sofas. Not as kid friendly, though that doesn’t stop them from spending time there. Downstairs is the family room, brown leather couches, tan pillows and throws and one of these days we’ll get blue/denim curtains!

Most people can’t tell you what there style is. Like me, they just know what they like. But if your interior decoratingly challenged you might want to hop on over here and find out how to help find your style or at least have a clue where to start. It had some great suggestions to help me find my decorating style.

Still, I’ve concluded I need several houses to decorate them with all my styles!!!

But this site isn’t just about style. It’s a wealth of information that I should have discovered BEFORE I moved into my new home. Yet, it’s not too late to glean from the content. And I’m sure my hubby will appreciate all the articles on tiling, remodeling, and landscaping.

 



Categories: Uncategorized |June 10th, 2009 | No Comments


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Categories: Education , Homeschooling |June 9th, 2009 | No Comments


Writer…Interrupted in Christian Fiction Online Magazine

I’ve got an article in the new issue of Christian Fiction Online Magazine . So check it out!



Categories: Places I Write |June 8th, 2009 | 2 Comments


Blog Troubles

For some reason I am unable to get into any of the other blogs to post or do admin type stuff. Luckily, I already transferred writer…interrupted, but I’m worried about this one. So just in case I can’t get back in here and I stop posting, you’ll know why! Pray it doesn’t come to that!



Categories: Uncategorized |June 7th, 2009 | No Comments


Review: Double Minds by Terri Blackstock

Not only is Terri Blackstock one of my favorite people (yes, I did get to meet her in person several times. Check out the podcast interview here!,) but she’s also one of my favorite authors. Terri mixes mystery and suspense with deep characterization. And Double Minds was a perfect example of that.

Parker James is a songwriter, wannabe Christian pop star, but because of her “unique” sound, she has to settle for watching her best friend sing her way to the top of the Christian pop charts. But when a music intern is murdered at Parker’s desk while she’s singing to a youth group across town, her homicide detective brother is on the case. Against her brother’s advice, she starts to dig into the case, getting close to those close to the victim, trying to find out if the murder had anything to do with her. An anonymous note says it does. Instead of backing down, she uncovers Christian music industry corruption and another murder. Throw in Parker’s growing insecurity about ever landing her dream, and having to edit out the faith words to the songs she wrote just to help her friend go mainstream, and Parker is in for a crazy, emotional ride.

Though the suspense wasn’t the main thrust of the novel, the mystery was engaging and had me guessing and coming up with possible suspects and theories. Yet, it was Parker’s character and growth that drove the novel. So that’s good news for all you squeamish readers out there. If you’ve been “afraid” to try a Terri Blackstock novel, this is the perfect opportunity!



Categories: Between the Covers of a Book |June 6th, 2009 | 1 Comment


Jack of All Trades vs. Master of One

Is it better to dabble and excel in several things that you love or focus and commit to one talent, one discipline you’re not sure you want to spend the rest of your life doing, but you enjoy?

That’s the dilemma Joey, my 12 year old,  is facing. We just had an audition with a music conservatory. Several friends have received scholarships there, and I knew Joey was a candidate. The school explained to me it was a vigorous “Russian” program, and I knew if any one of my kids could do it, it’d be my A+ student who loves to play the piano.

We went. Joey impressed them, and then I was called in and given the “music will be his life for the next seven years” speech. While I was informed by friends that they were very strict, I guess I didn’t realize they expected Joey not to pursue any other interests. In fact, one of the first things they said to me is that he had a strong interview and he was a very polite boy, but he has a lot of talents and interests. Which is true. Joey could have been a competitive tumbler, but for reasons beyond our control (like the gym closing and not finding another program) he’s lost some of his skills. We planned on putting him back in tumbling now that we found another gym. He also loves theatre and thought he could give it up for a year to pursue piano, but he’s dismayed at the thought of seven years of not doing the other things he loves. Now, the scholarship is not for seven years, they reevaluate every year, but they want to take serious students and parents who will push their children and drive them even when the children don’t want to continue. That’s the Russian influence and the teacher was very honest about the philosophy of the school. She even said she had to turn down some very talented students because the parent’s weren’t 100% on board.

So our dilemma. I really want Joey to have this opportunity, especially since I can’t see any other way we can afford piano lessons at the level he needs them, but am I willing to force him to do nothing but piano? He’s not excited about it and I’m just so disappointed because I wanted this to be a good fit for us. And it has me wondering how my other friends who are at the school can still be involved in Boy Scouts. I remember my friend telling me they’re really strict at first and then they can work with you, but she said you can only miss 2 lessons. That wouldn’t work with theatre. And by the time students are in their second year, they’re at the school three hours a week. Decisions, decisions!

My son could be anything he wants to be. He could be great at a lot of things. He already is. Is it fair to push him in a particular direction so he could be excellent? This school seems to think so.

What are your thoughts?



Categories: Getting Real , Goals , Family Portraits |June 4th, 2009 | 9 Comments